I’ve known people with cancer who have learned to love their cancer as a part of themselves.
Honestly, I don’t think I’m ready to buy into that.
I don’t think we have to love anything about our cancer.
I do believe that we should accept it.
Accepting that we have cancer and that we may have had a part in bringing into our lives, is not the same as loving it or blaming ourselves.
We need to become Warriors.
Isn’t Being A Warrior Stressful?
As you already know, cancer patients need less stress in their lives.
So, the question is; “If I am “fighting” cancer, am I adding more stress to my life?”
I don’t think so.
It reminds me of reading “Life Was Never Meant To Be A Struggle,” by Stuart Wilde many years ago when he was explaining the difference between struggle and effort.
He explained that a tiger has gone out to find the prey, then chase it down and kill it to have dinner.
There is effort involved, but not struggle.
The struggle comes into play when we add emotions, usually harmful, to the effort.
If we are careful to keep negative emotions out of play, we can fight cancer without adding struggle or stress to our lives.
The central theme I learned from reading many of Stuart Wilde’s books is that “Life was never meant to be a struggle, just a gentle progression from one point to another, much like walking through a valley on a sunny day.”
Become what Dan Millman calls “Peaceful Warriors.”
Being a peaceful warrior isn’t about battling an external foe. It’s about being the best you that you can be right now, at the moment.
Here are some of the ideas I learned from Dan Millman’s books:
Knowledge is knowing — wisdom is doing.
Be fully engaged in the moment – it’s all you’ve got.
Don’t become a victim of your own limiting beliefs.
Master the ability to clear your mind and focus in the moment.
Don’t let your emotions control you.
Don’t give up the one thing you control — your mind.
Be conscious of your choices.
Be responsible for your actions.
Like the samurai of long ago, you must commit to the mental self-discipline of discerning between what truly serves you and what does not.
Be “For,” Not “Against”
The first thing you can do is to change your attitude about your cancer.
What I mean is that you might do well to adopt the attitude that you don’t hate cancer but that you love health.
Mother Thersa was the master of this. I remember once when she was invited to participate in a peaceful protest march against abortion.
She declined, explaining that if they were to have a march that was for life, she would participate.
It’s a subtle difference, but an important one.
You can learn to do what needs to be done to fight your cancer without bringing negative emotions and stress into play.
Here’s an example from my life:
I need to drink a couple of protein drinks every day as part of my nutrition plan.
I could take the attitude that’s it’s just not fair that I have to drink this nasty tasting stuff every day to fight against the damage that cancer and chemo have done to my digestive system.
Instead, I can choose to drink them every day with the attitude of this is one of the things I need to do to rebuild and maintain a healthy body.
Once again, a subtle difference, but it serves me better.
Can you think of a few attitudes in your own life that could be changed a little to serve you better?